As your child embarks on their journey into nursery or school, it can be an exciting yet overwhelming experience—for both of you. While your child is preparing to explore new friendships, routines, and learning opportunities, you, as a parent or carer, play a crucial role in helping ease this transition. Here’s a guide to support you through this important milestone.
Talk About the Transition Early
Preparation is key. Start talking about the upcoming change well in advance. Mentioning the new nursery or school in a positive light helps build excitement. Share stories about your own school experiences or read books that reflect the transition to a new setting. This can help your child feel more comfortable and curious about what’s to come.
Suggested books:
- The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn
- Llama Llama Misses Mama by Anna Dewdney
Visit the New Environment Together
If possible, take your child on a visit to the new nursery or school before the first day. At Childerwood we offer 3 x free settle in sessions that each last for 1-hour. These provide you and your child with an opportunity to meet your Key Person, become familiar with the routine and explore the facilities. Familiarity with the environment will make the transition feel less daunting. Try to encourage your child to independently explore while you ask questions and share important information the Key Person might need to be aware of.
Create a Routine at Home
Children thrive on routines, and knowing what to expect during the day helps them feel secure. As the first day approaches, begin to establish a consistent morning routine, including waking up at the same time, having breakfast, and getting dressed in school clothes. Also, try to establish a bedtime routine that ensures they’re getting enough rest. A good night’s sleep can significantly reduce anxiety about the next day.
Acknowledge and Validate Their Feelings
It’s natural for children to feel anxious or nervous about new experiences. Whether it’s a fear of separation, meeting new friends, or encountering unfamiliar activities, validate your child’s emotions. Let them know that it’s okay to feel nervous and that you understand. Reassure them that these feelings are normal and will ease over time.
Encourage them to share their thoughts with you, and listen carefully. You can say things like, “I know you’re feeling nervous, and that’s completely okay. Lots of children feel that way when they start nursery or school!”
Establish a Strong Goodbye Routine
The process of saying goodbye can be challenging, especially for younger children. A strong goodbye routine can help make the process smoother. Keep it short, positive, and consistent. Create a special phrase or gesture that reassures your child, like a hug and a “see you later” or a secret handshake.
Avoid lingering too long after drop-off. The longer the goodbye, the harder it can be for both of you. Trust that the staff will take good care of your child once you’ve left.
Get Involved
Once your child starts Nursery, stay engaged with their new environment. Engage on the parent portal, attend parent-teacher meetings, participate in school or nursery events, and communicate regularly with staff. This shows your child that you are part of their educational journey and that you value their experience. It also gives you a chance to stay informed about your child’s progress and address any concerns early on.
Encourage Independence
One of the main benefits of starting nursery or school is the opportunity for children to build social skills. Encourage your child to participate in group activities and make new friends. If they’re feeling shy or unsure, help them practice basic social skills like saying “hello,” taking turns, and sharing.
At the same time, nurture their growing independence. Give them opportunities to make small decisions, like choosing their clothes or packing their bag. This can help boost their confidence and self-esteem.
Be Patient with the Adjustment Period
The first few weeks can be challenging as your child adjusts to the new routine and setting. Expect some setbacks, such as tears, reluctance to go to school, or changes in behavior. Be patient and consistent. Often, these feelings fade once your child settles into the routine. Give them time to adjust at their own pace and celebrate small successes along the way.
Celebrate Milestones and Achievements
As your child becomes more comfortable in their new setting, celebrate their achievements, no matter how small. Praise their efforts and encourage them to share their experiences at the end of each day. Positive reinforcement will help your child feel confident and valued in their new environment.
Final Thoughts: You’re Not Alone
The transition to nursery or school is an exciting time, but it’s also a time of change and growth. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. Many children go through similar experiences, and many parents and carers share the same feelings of uncertainty and concern. Keep the lines of communication open with your child, their Key Person or Teachers. With the right support and preparation, this transition can be a positive and rewarding experience for both you and your child.
By showing patience, understanding, and a positive attitude, you’ll help your child feel secure, confident, and excited about their new adventure!
